Experiencing pregnancy or infant loss is an incredibly painful and isolating journey for parents. As friends and loved ones, it’s important to offer support in ways that are sensitive and meaningful. Here are five thoughtful things you can do to help someone who is grieving such a profound loss:
1. Acknowledge Their Loss on Infant Loss Awareness Day (October 15)
On Infant Loss Awareness Day, take a moment to reach out. Send a text or message letting them know you are thinking of them and their precious baby. Consider lighting a candle in memory of their child and share that gesture with them. You can also invite them to join in prayer on Zoom with us on October 28, where we will gather to pray and remember together.
2. Say Their Baby’s Name
Many grieving parents long to hear their baby’s name spoken aloud. A simple but deeply meaningful gesture is to acknowledge their baby by name when speaking with them. Whether it’s in a conversation or in a written note, this shows that you remember and honor their child’s life.
3. Request a Mass Intention
Offering a Mass intention for their baby is a deeply comforting way to help parents feel spiritually supported. A Mass said in honor of their child reminds them that their baby is remembered in a profound way, bringing them peace during difficult moments.
4. Create a Spiritual Bouquet
A spiritual bouquet is a beautiful collection of prayers, sacrifices, and devotions offered for someone. You can gather prayers, rosaries, or even novenas to offer for their family and baby. It’s a touching way to show you are interceding on their behalf, especially during significant times such as the baby’s birthday or due date.
5. Ask How They Are Doing (and Keep Asking)
The grieving process is ongoing, and parents often feel forgotten after the initial weeks or months. Continue to check in on them, not just during anniversaries but on ordinary days as well. Asking “How are you really doing?” shows them you are ready to listen, even when the world has moved on.
Additionally, consider requesting a Prayer Care Package from Lily of the Valley Catholic Ministry. These thoughtful care packages, which include items like hand-crafted bracelets, a hand written letter, prayer cards, and more, offer comfort and spiritual strength during such a difficult time.
Remember, these small gestures can make a lasting impact on those grieving pregnancy or infant loss. Your ongoing presence and prayers will be a source of strength and comfort for them as they navigate their journey of healing.